9 Ways to Orgasm Faster
Everyone’s sexual needs and bodies are different, so having an orgasm may require more or less time from person to person. There's no magic bullet for an instant orgasm, but these tips can help you reach orgasm faster.
- Prioritize your pleasure. A key part of sexual health and wellness is communication, so be open with your partner about exactly what you want and when you want it. Remember to be positive when instructing your partner during sex. For example, instead of telling them "Touching me like that isn't working," you could instead say, "Want to know what would really turn me on? I'd love to feel you do X."
- Practice with masturbation. The better you know your own body, the easier it will be to orgasm faster. Next time you masturbate, explore your body and uncover what turns you on the most. Eperiment with anal play and nipple play, and try out some new sex toys. Solo exploration makes it easier to relax and focus on the pleasurable sensations that build up to your orgasm.
- Increase clitoral stimulation. The majority of vulva owners require clitoral stimulation in order to reach orgasm, so make sure your partner pays plenty of attention to your clitoris. It's important for you to be properly acquainted with your own clitoris so you can convey what you like to your partner. Next time you masturbate, rub your clitoris in various directions—clockwise, counterclockwise, up and down, side to side—and at different pressure levels so that you know exactly what kind of clitoral stimulation turns you on.
- Use more lube. Insufficient lubrication makes it difficult to reach orgasm. Using lube will make sex more comfortable and enhance those feel-good sensations.
- Get kinky. One key to better sex is variety. Bring some kink to your sex life with role play, dirty talk, lingerie, new sex positions, or sex toys. Adding variety can lead to a quicker climax.
- Focus on foreplay. Being aroused before you begin having sex can lead to a quicker orgasm. Try engaging in twenty minutes of foreplay before your next sexual encounter to bring you closer to climax. Making out, sensual massages, dry humping, and sensory play are a few examples of sexual foreplay.
- Finish with oral sex. A significant percentage of vulva owners do not reach orgasm through intercourse alone. Talk to your partner about performing cunnilingus to bring you to climax more quickly.
- Use a vibrator. Vibrators provide intense stimulation, and they are a great tool to use when you're looking to have a quickie. You can use a vibrator for masturbation, or ask your partner to use it on you while you have sex.
- See a sex therapist. If you're struggling to orgasm and it is affecting your relationship, see a certified sex therapist, sexologist, or a psychotherapist specializing in sexual disorders. These professionals are trained to help you diagnose the cause of your problems and develop a plan to address it.